90 Day Fiance alum Syngin Colchester has revealed "the deciding factor" in his breakup with Tania Maduro and why they decided to end their marriage.
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"Some rumors are true -- #SingleLife New Season was announced and yes I am single, @syngin_colchester is single -- we're all single!!" she captioned an Instagram video at the time.
Tania, who married Syngin in July 2019, added, "Now don't go all at once to his DMs ladies or he'll never be able to sort them all out."
Syngin, who will be starring on Season 2 of 90 Day: The Single Life premiering November 12 on discovery+, opened up about the demise of his relationship on Sunday's episode of 90 Day Bares All's second season on Discovery's streaming service.
"I'll be real: things have been kind of rough for a couple of months. It's not like something you wake up [and say], 'Okay, I'm going to leave the person I love the most right now.' There have been times you're kind of almost forced to be happy," Syngin explained to 90 Day Bares All host Shaun Robinson.
Syngin said he and Tania were "holding onto love" but would question why they were fighting and "arguing this much."
"[We asked ourselves], 'How [have] our lives gotten to this? This cannot be true?' You end up holding onto that love for way too long and I think it just damages [the relationship] more in the end," he explained.
When Shaun asked if one major thing happened to make Tania and Syngin realize their marriage wasn't going to work, Syngin replied, "I think the main decision came when I finally decided that children are just not for me."
Tania and Syngin starred on Season 7 of 90 Day Fiance in early 2020 followed by Season 5 of 90 Day Fiance: Happily Ever After? on TLC.
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Tania was shown saying she wanted to have a baby within three years and continue "pumping them out" afterwards, but Syngin said he'd like to travel and have fun first. Syngin apparently had no issue waiting a whopping 7-10 years to become a dad.
RELATED LINK: '90 DAY FIANCE' COUPLES NOWSyngin said on 90 Day Bares All that he had tried to create a bond with Tania's sister's son "to see if I actually want one."
"But even though I love the little guy, I was like, 'Ugh, I'd be a better uncle than a father.' That's what I think. And this is a big decision for me, because I knew once I tell [Tania] this, it's going to be the end of us," Syngin revealed.
"But I still knew, 'I have to do this,' because even though I love her and want to give her everything that she wants, if I give her this, it might impact me negatively and the whole relationship and everything can get way worse."
Syngin concluded, "So children were definitely the deciding factor in everything."
Syngin admitted if he can't even hold down a 9AM-5PM job, he can't raise a child. He also said he doesn't want that "structure" and added "stress" in his life.
"I just feel like right now, I'm still a child! So if I bring a child into my life right now, it's just going to make craziness!" Syngin acknowledged.
Syngin also shared how it totally crushed him when Tania confessed she didn't think they were soul mates before tying the knot.
"I'll never forget that in my entire life," Syngin revealed.
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Syngin said Tania had tried to "hurt" him and the situation made him question, "What the hell am I doing here right now?"
"It gave so much doubt to me that I honestly didn't know what to do and I needed a little break. I [didn't] know how to process [that]," Syngin disclosed.
Syngin also joked on 90 Day Bares All that he's considering removing his own tattoo of Tania's initials on his finger by getting really drunk and using a steel brush.
On their original 90 Day Fiance season, Syngin moved to the United States on a K-1 visa after he and Tania fell for each other in South Africa, but their good times in America were laced with issues and adversity.
Syngin, for example, said he missed his freedom and didn't like Tania always being in control of him and their relationship.
"It's almost like you wrote the story and I'm just a character in it," complained Syngin, a self-declared free spirit.
Syngin also felt "abandoned" when Tania decided to study natural medicine and remedies in Costa Rica for three weeks during Syngin's 90-day stay in the U.S.
Tania desired "breathing room" and didn't feel the need to call and check-in with Syngin after late-night partying.
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Once Tania returned home, she expressed frustration over Syngin not pursuing any of his goals, such as becoming a bartender, woodworker or firefighter. Syngin even contemplated becoming an opera singer, and one of Tania's friends advised him to "pick a lane."
However, the couple got married in Connecticut anyway and symbolically connected their love through matching tattoos of the Sagittarius symbol instead of rings to represent travel in their relationship.
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Syngin struggled to nail down a job when Tania couldn't work as a bartender, and Tania was discovering she and her husband are just "two different people."
Tania's patience was wearing thin and she believed her marriage had become stagnant, while Syngin confessed he was feeling "pressure" and "a little suffocated" over the couple's finances and Tania's expectations of him.
Tania told Syngin that she wanted to make a one to three-year plan with Syngin and start a new chapter, but Syngin admitted he wasn't totally ready to be committed and "tied down" or "stuck" with children too early in life.
Syngin, who didn't even like the idea of raising kids in America over South Africa, said there needed to be some compromise or else that would "be the end" of his relationship with Tania.
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He lamented about how being in America was never his dream and he missed having fun with his friends.
Meanwhile, Tania was tired of Syngin's "empty promises" and vented in a confessional, "I know I can't sit there and wait forever for change from someone who says they love me. I can't and I won't wait."
On Happily Ever After?'s Tell-All that aired in late September 2020, Tania and Syngin revealed they had been working on their relationship but being in lockdown amid the coronavirus pandemic resulted in the pair being really mean to each other and sleeping in different rooms.
Syngin admitted he and Tania didn't have a healthy marriage and things were "toxic" between them.
Shaun asked the couple during the Tell-All, "Are you guys actually talking about divorce?"
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"We both can be very hard-headed," Syngin added.
Syngin confessed he and Tania would have broken up already had it not been for their wedding and being married.
Syngin explained that he didn't want to waste another two years of Tania's time or his own time "trying" to hash out their issues.
Syngin said even another year of effort sounded like a really long time.
"Six months from now, things could definitely be improving and we could be like, 'Hey, this is actually rolling and it's going great and let's keep going,'" Tania shared.
"But if in six months we're like, 'Damn, we're worse than we were three years ago,' then it's time to re-evaluate."
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