90 Day Fiance couple Darcey Silva and Tom Brooks have been shown about to have a heated confrontation on Season 4 of 90 Day Fiance: Before the 90 Days, so how did things turn out? Did Darcey and Tom split or are they still together now?  

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[90 Day Fiance Spoilers: This article contains spoilers revealing whether Tom or Darcey broke up or the 90 Day Fiance: Before the 90 Days couple is still together].

Tom, a 39-year-old from Nottingham, United Kingdom, and Darcey, a 45-year-old from Middletown, CT, are starring on 90 Day Fiance: Before the 90 Days' new season, which premiered in February on TLC.

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Darcey joined the 90 Day Fiance franchise when she starred on Seasons 1 and 2 of 90 Day Fiance: Before the 90 Days with her now-ex Jesse Meester.

On Season 3 of 90 Day Fiance: Before the 90 Days, Darcey was shown traveling to England to pursue what she believed would be a fairy-tale romance with Tom.

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When Darcey and Tom met face to face after years of talking on the phone, online and through video chat, Darcey had high expectations and thought they'd get engaged -- but Tom wasn't on the same page.

While Darcey was already in love, Tom thought their romantic relationship was only beginning, and he just wanted to get to know her better during her stay in England. 

"I'm not really at the stage of thinking where I'm going to settle down, get married, have kids, and move to her country or have her move here," Tom told his sister Emma last season.

"I'm at the point where I'm meeting someone I've been really good friends with and I'm going to see where it goes."

Tom believed Darcey lived in "a bit of a fantasy" when it came to romance and was "a little difficult to deal with" given her emotions, but he also had walls up and was guarded since he had his heart broken multiple times in the past.


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As the season went on, Tom found himself falling for Darcey, and the idea of being in a committed relationship with her sounded more enticing. It was clear Darcey was willing to give Tom her whole heart, and he realized she had the best of intentions. 

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So while enjoying their last dinner together in England at the end of Darcey's visit, Tom told the mother of two, "Here's to loving and to knowing what love is -- and knowing that when you have it, you should hold on to it."

"I do love you," Tom told Darcey. "I've always loved you. I'm actually in love with you, very much so."

"I love you," Darcey replied.

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Tom then gave Darcey a key to his house so she could visit any time she'd like. She was disappointed it wasn't an engagement ring, but Darcey was so head over heels she didn't care.

When it became time for the pair to say goodbye at the airport, Tom told Darcey after hugging and kissing her, "It's not goodbye; it's see you soon... I do see a future with us together."

But the season finale of 90 Day Fiance: Before the 90 Days' third season showed Tom breaking up with Darcey just a few weeks after she returned to America from her trip to England.

"I saw myself marrying Tom one day. Dated Jesse for two years and then it faded, and here we go again," Darcey said in a confessional during the episode.

"I'm just going to keep going on with my life, and if someone else comes along that feels right, I'm going to move on with my life."


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Heading into the Tell-All special, however, Tom said his relationship with Darcey was "complicated" because he loved her very much.

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Tom wanted to see if being a couple long-term was a real possibility, and so he asked Darcey to spend the day with him after filming the Tell-All special for 90 Day Fiance: Before the 90 Days' third season, which aired on TLC in October 2019.

On the currently-airing fourth season of 90 Day Fiance: Before the 90 Days, Darcey revealed she and Tom had drifted even further apart and their failing relationship was really hurtful.

Darcey wondered if she had been too needy given the distance between them and pointed out how Tom never even called her or sent a card or gift on her birthday, which was one week prior to when this scene filmed.


Darcey felt "sad and unloved," and she cried to the cameras because Tom had allegedly said he was going to call on her birthday.

Tom later texted an apology, but Darcey's twin sister Stacey Silva felt Darcey deserved better and should move on, and Darcey also acknowledged she deserved to be loved passionately and respected.

When the pair finally reconnected through video chat, an alleged "hot and cold" Tom shared that he was going to be in New Jersey to meet with a wine distributor and would be stopping in New York for a couple of days.

Tom asked Darcey if she'd like to meet him in New York, but she could tell he seemed off and didn't want history to repeat itself.

"If you're coming here to break up, then just do it over the phone," Darcey told him.

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Tom said he wanted to spend some time with a woman whom he had shared "a romantic notion" with, which made Darcey cop an attitude.

"I don't want any bad blood. I just don't know what I'm going to do," she told the cameras.

Stacey then showed Darcey photos of Tom with another blonde woman. Stacey's fiance Florian apparently found the pictures because he was still friends with Tom on social media at this time.

Darcey said she was unable to see the photos herself on his social media because she and Tom had blocked each other a few weeks prior after a big fight.

Darcey said the woman was sitting in Tom's crotch in one of the photos and he had his hands all over her. Darcey insisted she wasn't going to let a man play with her heart and so she needed to find out what was going on.

Darcey felt Tom was stringing her along and told Stacey, "That's not love." Darcey wondered if Tom had been full of empty words and never really loved her to begin with.


"It just hurts. I feel deceived and disrespected," Darcey cried to the cameras.

Darcey wondered what else Tom had been hiding from her and what she didn't know about him. Darcey felt like Tom had "put on a whole facade" and she ignored all of the red flags.

Darcey said she wasn't replying to Tom's text messages until he could own his behavior. She felt she was being played for a fool, and her pal Reina pointed out Darcey and Tom kind of had a "sick" relationship in that they just couldn't quit each other.

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During a spa day with Stacey and her pal Reina, Darcey decided to stick up for herself and tell Tom in person how he had wronged her. She planned to show Tom what he could and was about to lose.

Darcey said if she dumped Tom, it wouldn't be over the photos of him with another girl. Darcey said if she called it quits on her relationship, it would be to show Tom her strength, her self-love, and the love she had for her daughters.


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Darcey intended to confront Tom and tell him that he wasn't treating her with care or respect, and she said he wasn't aware of the fact she had seen the photos of him with another woman.

"I thought we were still together, so I feel betrayed and used, and I'm going to let him know it," Darcey told the cameras.

Darcey wondered if Tom was "playing games" and manipulating her because he was already talking about introducing her to some of his friends in Argentina when she was predicting a breakup might happen in New York.

"I think he's stringing me along to act committed," Darcey said, adding, "He wants to feel peaceful for himself because he knows that he did me dirty."

But Tom said he and Darcey had a lot to talk about and he wanted to make their romance work.

"I love Darcey more than I think she'll ever realize. I did think maybe we could have a future together, but then things change. I think the distance is a nightmare... and when she got home, Darcey was still upset and talking about her ex [Jesse Meester], which was too much for me," Tom told the cameras.


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Tom also said he and Darcey hit a bump in the road when Darcey appeared to seek comfort in another man during the Tell-All taping for 90 Day Fiance: Before the 90 Days' third season. Tom wanted to know once and for all whether he and Darcey were in a relationship and could stay in one long-term.

Tom wasn't sure what mindset Darcey was going to have during their meeting, but he hoped they wouldn't argue and could reach "the best possible solution."

Later on, Darcey arrived in New York City, and she was nervous about seeing Tom again. Tom had texted her that he "wanted to fix this" instead of having "a war," which really threw Darcey off.

Darcey was aggravated with Tom's vague and confusing text messages, so she didn't know what was going to happen between them.

Darcey broke down into tears because she had loved Tom and felt safe with him. She didn't want to feel any additional pain. Tom worried Darcey was going to get emotional, upset and angry, and he didn't like that side of her.


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"I'm nervous as hell. She'll be here soon and I don't know what's going to happen," Tom told the cameras.

Darcey packed a suitcase and planned to stay at a hotel in New York in case her meeting with Tom ended badly. She said she didn't want to bring that bad energy home to her family.

The episode ended on a cliffhanger, with Darcey and Tom meeting at a restaurant in New York. Tom leaned in for a kiss, but Darcey rejected him saying, "It's okay, I don't feel comfortable."

In a preview for an upcoming episode of Season 4, Darcey is shown saying, "I don't trust Tom. I feel like he is hiding something."

And based on Tom's public social-media activity late last year, he was apparently feeling a similar way about Darcey.

So how did Tom and Darcey's relationship turn out? Did the 90 Day Fiance couple break up or are they still together?

There has been no sign in recent months on social media Darcey and Tom are still an item.


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Tom and Darcey's flame apparently fizzled out not long after they reunited in New York City for 90 Day Fiance: Before the 90 Days' third-season Tell All.

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Tom was spotted with a Darcey look-alike in September 2019, and one month later, Darcey confirmed in an Instagram posting she was single and looking for a new man.

"Single and ready to mingle! Done with the past," wrote Darcey.

A couple of weeks later, Darcey also announced she was planning to move from Connecticut to Los Angeles, CA.

"Excited for what the future holds! I'm ready for a sexy and manly Aussie! Let's go down under! Will always keep my heart open to life and real love!" she wrote on Instagram at the time.


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Darcey subsequently deleted her post, but it was captured by 90 Day Fiance Instagrammer John Yates prior to its deletion.

According to an In Touch Weekly source, Darcey will move to Los Angeles with Stacey as well as her two teenage daughters, Aniko and Aspen, this summer.

"Darcey and Stacey are indeed moving to Los Angeles and Darcey's bringing the girls," the source said.

"She will set things up and make sure everything's ready while her daughters finish out their school year in Connecticut until summer when they'll all make the official move on the West Coast."

In November 2019, Tom revealed on social media he had apologized to Jesse, who claimed the two men had "both been manipulated" by Darcey.

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Tom and Jesse even met up in New York City a few days later and were spotted having coffee at a restaurant together.

Tom then briefly debuted his alleged new girlfriend, an American woman named Amanda McAdams, on Instagram in January and suggested he was moving to New York City with her.

"Beauty is fleeting, but a rent-controlled apartment overlooking the park is forever," Tom captioned a photo he later deleted showing Amanda straddling his waist on New York's Central Park bridge.

"Want to move in together?"

Tom also added the following hashtags to his post: "#sexandthecitystyle #nyc #newyork #newyorkcity #brooklyn #manhattan #ny #fashion #love #hiphop #queens #music #art #bronx #photography #usa #miami #instagood #travel #photooftheday #la #instagram #artist #style #rap #losangeles #repost #london #like #follow."

Tom was quoting Sex and the City character Carrie Bradshaw in the posting.


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Given the trees in the background of the romantic photo feature colorful leaves, it appears this photo was taken in Fall 2019.

Jesse also commented on Tom's post before it was deleted.

"See you soon new neighbour! Beautiful pic. Love to you both," Jesse wrote, along with heart and praying-hands emojis.

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Tom and Amanda, who is reportedly an event planner and executive assistant in New York City, began dating in November 2019, according to Soap Dirt.

Tom reportedly celebrated the Christmas holiday last year in Amanda's hometown of Pittsburgh, PA with her parents Nancy McAdams and Robert McAdams even though the couple had only been dating a couple of months.


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Given Tom and Darcey openly broke up last fall, Amanda -- who allegedly dated a British man before -- would be able to give Tom another chance at a K-1 visa to move to the United States, as well as possibly continue starring on TLC.

According to a source close to her family, Amanda, a 35-year-old tattooed blonde who currently lives in Long Island, NY, would jump at the chance to star on a reality show with Tom if he ended up on an additional season of a 90 Day Fiance spinoff.

"[Amanda] wouldn't hesitate to accept if offered a role," the source told Soap Dirt, adding that Tom's new love wants "notoriety of any kind."

In a February interview with Us Weekly, Darcey all but confirmed she's no longer with Tom by slamming him multiple times.

Darcey, for instance, said Tom's new friendship with her ex, Jesse, was "a slap in the face" and a "kick in the ass."

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"But that's their style and they're going to do what they want to do anyway," Darcey said.

"I think people can see through that... What was the reason for it? [Tom] knew exactly how I got treated and he thought that I was very much disrespected by Jesse, and for them to kind of band [together] -- I felt ganged up on."

Darcey vented about how she had done nothing other than give her heart to the two men.

"I feel like I got stomped on, and then for them to do that for the media or the press or whatever they were trying to do, it was just a low blow," Darcey told Us, adding the guys must have had an agenda when they agreed to meet up and become friends.

"I don't like to give it attention because it just fuels their fire and it's not worth it for me."

Darcey griped about how she was "tired" of guys treating her badly and didn't understand why there was so much "animosity" and "hate" against her.


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"I wish them well, but I cut the cord," she said of seemingly both Tom and Jesse.

"I really did, and I just want to move on from it. I know what I deserve, and I do deserve better. For me, it's about self-love... and feeling empowered. When I least expect it, that's when it's going to happen... I don't like bad blood."

In a late March post on Instagram, Darcey mentioned how she's been working on a "revenge body," which would indicate she's moving on from Tom.

"I will always hold my heart high and my power! I have never been or will be cold hearted! That's not my style! I deserve the best!... Transformation time and revenge body time!" Darcey captioned a video of herself.

"Keeping my eyes on the prize in life and love! Never felt so loved and happy! Thank you God our universe! Thank you Jesus for all your love and support! Silva strong! I got this!"

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About The Author: Elizabeth Kwiatkowski
Elizabeth Kwiatkowski is Associate Editor of Reality TV World and has been covering the reality TV genre for more than a decade.