90 Day Fiance: Before the 90 Days couple Ella Johnson and Johnny Chao had yet to meet each other in-person by the time the Tell-All event filmed, so did Ella give up on the relationship and have she and Johnny split, or do 90 Day Fiance spoilers reveal that Ella and Johnny are still together now?
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[90 Day Fiance Spoiler Warning: This report contains spoilers on the current status of Ella and Johnny's relationship and whether they are still a couple or have broken up].
Ella, a 29-year-old from Idaho Falls, ID, said she's always struggled with being overweight and desires attention from men, which has resulted in some unhealthy relationships in her past.
Since she hadn't found much luck dating in Idaho, Ella decided to start looking for her fantasy on international dating apps and websites.
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"I found a social media page called 'Asian men, white women," and that is where I found my Asian prince," Ella revealed. "Johnny is from China. He is 34 years old. He has an amazing smile and his eyes are just perfect."
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Ella said despite being from different countries, she and Johnny had a surprising amount in common.
"I am this western girl who has this Asian obsession and he's kind of like this Asian man who has a western-culture obsession, and we both love anime," Ella shared.
The pair had officially become girlfriend and boyfriend about six months prior to the start of taping 90 Day Fiance: Before the 90 Days. However, they had been talking for a year-and-a-half and had been communicating every single day.
Ella wanted to spend her life with Johnny, who had told Ella that he'd like to buy a big house and welcome children together.
But due to the coronavirus pandemic and government restrictions, Ella could not travel to China. Johnny therefore applied for a travel visa to visit Ella in Idaho, and she gushed about being "so friggin' excited" to be together in-person.
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Johnny seemed to really care about Ella, and he planned to help her lose weight by cooking her meals and being supportive in America.
But Ella's mother Debbie feared Johnny was trying to take advantage of her daughter and may be after a green card.
Debbie said it was hard to trust that this would be "the real thing" for Ella, who had apparently been hurt and played by a foreign love -- an Indian man she met online -- before.
But Ella believed Johnny was The One and he wasn't after American citizenship, especially since he has a five-year-old son named Stony in China.
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Johnny is divorced and Stony apparently lives with his grandparents so that Johnny can travel for his job. Johnny, who has full custody, was seeing his child a couple times a month while Stony's mother had allegedly started a whole new family.
"I'm excited to be a mom, but we're going to focus on us for a while. And then once we establish a good foundation, then hopefully we'll get to bring Stony over [to the U.S.]," Ella explained to her girlfriends while out to lunch.
Ella, however, struggled to trust Johnny because her ex had really devastated her, especially through his refusal to be intimate with her.
She wasn't sure if Johnny would still be attracted to her in-person.
Meanwhile, Johnny told the cameras that Ella "has a beautiful face" and "fantastic" personality, but he seemed to have an issue with her size and "belly."
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But Johnny said he's attracted to American women because they are "very sexy" and tend to be more independent than the women he was meeting in China.
"I hope I become a redneck cowboy. Like yee-haw!" Johnny exclaimed.
Johnny said he'd be willing to quit his job as an electrical car manufacturer and stop renting his place in Shanghai because Ella had gotten him through his "darkest days."
Johnny therefore wanted to apply for a Singapore visa, where he would quarantine for two weeks before entering the United States. He intended to propose marriage to Ella by the end of his trip.
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Johnny was scared, however, about leaving his son and potentially getting stuck in America for a long time due to the coronavirus pandemic. He was seemingly having doubts about his trip, and Ella feared Johnny would ultimately determine she's not worth the hassle.
Johnny's Singapore visa was then denied, and so Ella decided she and Johnny should meet up in Dubai since he wouldn't need a visa to travel there.
Johnny initially agreed to Dubai, but when the trip got closer, he had another change of heart. Ella thought Johnny was just coming up with "ridiculous" excuses, and it made her question everything.
Ella was tired of having to wait for Johnny, especially since he was vaccinated and had bought an entire safety suit for his travels.
Over FaceTime, Johnny pointed out to Ella how his medical bills would be very expensive if he needed to be hospitalized in the United States, but Ella said the situation wasn't risky enough for Johnny to cancel their plans and postpone their love.
Johnny worried that if he got sick, he would be unable to provide for his family, but Johnny's hesitation and reservations were causing Ella "emotional trauma."
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"This is on you. I am not going to change my opinion. I want you here now. That is where I stand -- no exceptions," Ella told her boyfriend.
Ella told the cameras that she felt "enraged and super devastated" and if Johnny wasn't willing to commit to her, she'd have to let him go and move on.
"Johnny means the absolute world to me. I need to touch him, I need to kiss him, I need to see for sure what's going to happen when we're together," Ella explained in a confessional.
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But Johnny ultimately decided he couldn't meet her in Dubai because if he got sick, he'd have to quarantine for five weeks before being able to return to China.
Johnny asked Ella to wait until February, which was asking Ella to wait another seven months to meet him, which left her feeling shocked and uncertain about their future together.
"I hope she doesn't think I have less love for her because I am more cautious," Johnny shared with the cameras.
Ella then admitted to Johnny that she had cuddled with a close guy friend one lonely evening and they ended up having sex. Ella said the event just happened because she was feeling "so distraught and so upset" about Johnny's "wishy-washy" behavior.
Ella said some of her self-worth was tied up in receiving physical attention from men and it had been really hard to be alone for a year-and-a-half. She called it "a weak moment" but told the cameras how she'd rather be honest than be a liar.
Johnny admitted it was really hard to hear this news, but Ella insisted, "I still love you."
Johnny claimed he wasn't mad because their relationship was complicated and he hadn't fulfilled his end of things. Johnny therefore planned to meet her in February and fix their relationship.
"I just don't know where we should stand right now," Ella noted, before getting emotional. "I need you to see how much I am upset with you not being able to come now."
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Johnny promised he'd fly to see her in February even if the world was on fire or he'd have to fly through a tornado, but Ella didn't really believe him.
Ella cried and said, "I want my person and I think he's my person, so I think I'm just going to have to wait. I don't think that my heart will let me rest if I don't give this last chance."
On Part 1 of the Tell-All special for 90 Day Fiance: Before the 90 Days' fifth season, Ella was the only cast member who hadn't actually met her significant other in-person yet, and that made her feel very sad and deflated.
Ella also worried about her fellow co-stars attacking her for an "animalistic" moment of weakness when she had betrayed Johnny and slept with a male friend.
"Johnny is an amazing man, and I did him wrong," Ella admitted.
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But according to a preview for Part 2 of the Tell All, Ella wrong Johnny more than once and apparently slept with another guy while trying to make a long-distance romance with her Asian prince work.
So did Ella and Johnny call it quits on their relationship or is the 90 Day Fiance: Before the 90 Days couple still together now?
Johnny took to social media in mid-March and suggested he and Ella are still an item and going strong, even though they continue to date long distance.
Johnny called himself "wrong" for pushing back all of his trips to meet Ella.
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"I know I [left] her heartbroken. And she is very young, age 28, a girl's valuable age and... [it's] hard to fly in and out of China," Johnny wrote.
Johnny suggested Ella's choice to sleep with another man was not a dealbreaker for him.
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"I agreed to have open relationship. I told her if someone is better than me I will and must let her go. It is unfair to just let her waiting hopeless and also without clear timeline, it is a cruel thing i aware it," he concluded.
And on March 14, Johnny wrote to Ella on Instagram, "I wanna say I still have confidence in you and love you."
Johnny repeated how it was wrong of him to delay their meeting and he takes "90 percent responsibility for what happened."
"I struggled [to] fly out, because China is still lockdown and travel ban means can fly out but barely with flights can come back to China," Johnny explained.
"Those are flights information from LA to Shanghai City in whole June and July without ticket until in August with 3 flights but each ticket price over 10000 bucks."
It therefore appears Ella and Johnny are still waiting for their first in-person meeting.
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While Ella hasn't written anything about Johnny in the last month on her own Instagram account, Johnny has gushed about Ella on more than one occasion.
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"I do not know much about western women but I believe most of people are good," Johnny said, defending his girlfriend against haters.
Johnny said he had delayed Ella two years and so he does "not blame her too much" for being with another guy.
"I just wish pandemic never happened then things will not so hard," Johnny lamented.
One of Johnny's followers, however, wrote how he deserves better than an unfaithful woman.
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"I did not watch that part, that gonna be painful to watch it," Johnny wrote in his Instagram comments.
"Thanks for your encourage and support, I keep delayed many times did not dare to step forward we both must learn from our mistakes... I think both of us need to be brave and more grow up."
And Ella and Johnny were definitely still a couple in February.
Ella posted a photo of Johnny on Instagram on February 16 and captioned it, "Another man crush Monday I just couldn't resist he looks so handsome and I love it. #90dayfiancebeforethe90days #90dayfiance #manchrushmonday #loveislove #asianlover."
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