90 Day Fiance star Kalani Faagata kicked Asuelu Pulaa out of their home amid the coronavirus pandemic as shown on Season 5 of 90 Day Fiance: Happily Ever After?, so did the couple stay apart and break up or are they still married and together?
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[90 Day Fiance Spoiler Warning: This report includes spoilers revealing if Kalani and Asuelu broke up or if the 90 Day Fiance: Happily Ever After? couple is still together after they parted ways during the COVID-19 pandemic.]
Kalani, a 31-year-old from Orange County, CA, and Asuelu, a 24-year-old from Samoa, met in July 2016 and initially appeared on Season 6 of 90 Day Fiance in 2019.RELATED LINK: '90 DAY FIANCE' COUPLES NOW: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? WHO IS STILL TOGETHER? WHO HAS SPLIT? (PHOTOS)
Kalani and Asuelu met when Kalani was visiting a resort where Asuelu worked as the activities director, and the couple pursued a long-distance relationship once Kalani returned to America.
After communicating and getting to know each other better, Kalani decided Asuelu could be the man of her dreams and so she traveled back to Samoa to visit him.
During that trip, Kalani lost her virginity and the pair had sex for the first time, which resulted in a surprise pregnancy that rocked Kalani and her whole family.
Kalani's conservative Mormon family was disappointed in Kalani's actions and choice of partner, especially since her father Low didn't want any of daughters to get involved with a Samoan man like himself, but Kalani opted to follow her heart.
Kalani ultimately ignored her family's warnings and concerns about Asuelu and went ahead and applied for a K-1 visa so Asuelu could move to the United States and become a hands-on father. At this time, Kalani and Asuelu's son Oliver was five months old.
Once Asuelu moved to the United States, there was quite an adjustment period as he attempted to acclimate to American culture. Despite some ups and downs, Kalani and Asuelu got married in September 2018.
90 Day Fiance's sixth season concluded with Kalani and Asuelu's wedding ceremony as well as Kalani finding out she was pregnant with their second child.
Kalani and Asuelu found out they were expecting Baby No. 2 together less than a year after she had given birth to Oliver, and the news was totally unexpected.
Kalani and Asuelu are now parents of two sons: Oliver, whom the couple welcomed in January 2018, and Kennedy, who was born in May 2019.
About four months later, Kalani suggested in a poll on her Instagram that Asuelu wasn't helping her with the kids and she felt totally overwhelmed.
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"Do all husbands expect their wives to pay bills, clean the whole house, do all the laundry, feed/watch the kids 24/7 (unless said husband is in public or wants a selfie)?" Kalani asked in the September 2019 poll. "Asking for my gottdamn self. Is this normal?"
Apparently 70 percent of Kalani's followers who participated in the poll answered "No."
However, the couple appeared to be a very happy family at Christmas time in December 2019.
On 90 Day Fiance: Happily Ever After?'s fifth season, Asuelu and Kalani had been married for one year and three months at the time of filming. Asuelu was working part-time and shown passing out free samples.
Kalani suggested her marriage was suffering and she was exhausted all the time, so her parents moved in with the couple to help them out with the boys, which apparently upset Asuelu because he no longer was the man of the house.
Kalani believed Asuelu would rather play volleyball or video games after work than spend time with his family, and she felt romance had gone out the window in her relationship.
Kalani missed the times when she and Asuelu longed to be around each other and loved every minute with each other.
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Kalani's dad Low also wanted Asuelu to "step up" and stop "f-cking around." Low said Asuelu would get his "ass whooped or sent back to Samoa" if things didn't change for the better.
But Asuelu continued to disappoint Kalani and her family, like when he was angry at his wife for turning down an opportunity for their family to travel to Samoa.
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Not only would the trip cost thousands of dollars in plane fare alone, but there had also been a Measles outbreak recently -- and children in Samoa were dying from it.
Asuelu and Kalani's seven-month-old son Kennedy wasn't vaccinated and wasn't supposed to get that MMR vaccine until 12-24 months old, according to his doctor, so Kalani put her foot down and pumped the breaks on Asuelu's dream vacation.
Instead of going to Samoa, Kalani decided to celebrate Oliver's second birthday in California, but Asuelu was grumpy and resentful he couldn't get his way.
In the car ride to California, Asuelu complained, "I think Kalani can't do what mother in Samoa do," adding that being a stay-at-home mom is "easy."
Kalani argued that she was the one up all night with both of their sick kids when she was sick too and did "everything for them," and Asuelu called her out for being "annoying" as well as a "lying b-tch."
Kalani's mother was driving the car and scolded Asuelu for being "disrespectful" and talking to her daughter that way, which only made Asuelu more frustrated.
"I don't know how your husband talk to you when you guys been together. But it's my wife; I can talk whatever," Asuelu said. "Your daughter asks stupid questions."
Kalani felt Asuelu was trying to sabotage the weekend and ruin it for everyone as a way to get back at her for canceling their trip to Samoa.
"It just shows me that he doesn't really care about me and the boys and he's just No. 1 to himself," Kalani complained in a confessional, later adding that she'd never be "subservient" to a man.
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Kalani's sister Kolini said Asuelu "sucked the life" out of her sister and it was hard to see, and Kalani's whole family thought Asuelu was "in the wrong" and had behaved rudely.
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Asuelu even refused to attend Oliver's birthday party at first and hid in a bedroom.
Asuelu later apologized to Kalani, but Kalani wanted to see change in his actions since his words were no longer enough.
In order to make Asuelu happy and hopefully strengthen their relationship, Kalani agreed to visit Asuelu's mother Lesina and two half-sisters in Washington State.
Asuelu wanted to bring gifts for his family and give his mother $1,000, which Lesina had asked for, but Kalani rejected that idea and said they couldn't afford it.
Kalani agreed to let Asuelu buy $200 worth of gifts and give his mother an additional $100. After all, Asuelu was only working part-time.
Kalani believed Asuelu was "trying to buy his family's love."
It had been about a year since Asuelu last saw his mother and sisters Tammy and Rosa, but it didn't take long for the women to bring up money once Asuelu reunited with them.
Asuelu's mother was shocked he only had $100 for her, and Tammy advised Asuelu to step up like a man and work full-time. Asuelu's family figured Kalani's family could support his kids, and Lesina and Tammy accused Kalani of controlling her husband.
Kalani later met with Lesina and Tammy on her own in attempt "to talk some sense into them," but the discussion turned out to be a disaster.
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Tammy insisted Kalani was "brainwashing" Asuelu, but Kalani insisted she had done nothing but love her husband.
Tammy actually tried to fight Kalani physically, so Kalani returned to Asuelu upset about the turn of events. Asuelu, however, only seemed concerned about whether Kalani or Tammy would win in a fight.
Kalani grew so frustrated that she called Asuelu "a lunatic," who in turn dubbed Kalani "f-cking crazy." She no longer felt supported by her husband and worried he'd never change.
Kolini told Kalani that she was too good for Asuelu and didn't deserve to live that way. Kolini advised her sister to leave the relationship for her own well-being.
"I do feel like I love him still," Kalani griped. "I just feel like every day, it's getting less and less, and I feel like if it keeps continuing on like this, I won't want to be a part of this marriage anymore."
Asuelu apparently overheard Kalani and Kolini talking, and so he and Kalani got into a huge fight off-camera.
"I'm questioning if I can even do this anymore... [I want to see] if we can fix his behavior, and if not, I just need to not be with him," Kalani admitted.
Kalani wished her marriage was about love, happiness and supporting each other, and she confessed that that's not what she had. In fact, Kalani believed Asuelu wanted to take possession of her.
"I am tired and I'm emotionally exhausted... I just need to go home and figure things out. I don't know, I just want to be done. I don't want to be married anymore," Kalani confessed. "I love him, but I have to start loving myself and loving my boys more."
Kalani said it was "insane" for her and Asuelu to keep living the same way, so the couple went to therapy or counseling together.
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"I'm done at this point. I'm giving him a last chance and he's either going to take it or he's going to take his sh-t out of the house," Kalani shared in a confessional.
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Kalani and Asuelu met with Dr. Matt Eschler and a Samoan translator, Ilena Williams.
The couple discussed their issues, including how Asuelu longed to be head of their household but Kalani didn't want to be viewed like her husband's property.
Asuelu also blamed Kalani for trying to ruin his relationship with his family.
Dr. Eschler was hoping the pair could begin new traditions that neither of them were accustomed to in order to blend their cultures and household responsibilities, and Kalani said she and Asuelu had made a little progress in that area.
"I love you and I'm trying to help our marriage and fix our marriage. It's not that I don't want to. I'll try for you," Kalani told Asuelu.
Asuelu later asked his family members, including his mother, to travel from Washington State to visit him in Utah in attempt to repair Kalani's relationship with them. Asuelu demanded that his relatives apologize to Kalani.
Lesina and Tammy admitted they'd like to see Asuelu and Kalani get divorced, but Asuelu had his wife's back and demanded his family respect her. Lesina eventually came around and seemed okay with the fact Asuelu wasn't going to be able to give her much money.
"Asuelu said all of the right things today, so I feel more hopeful and think there are a lot more things to look forward to in our relationship," Kalani told the cameras.
Kalani and Asuelu's progress led to a fairly happy three months until the global outbreak of coronavirus earlier this year.
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Kalani said she and Asuelu were fighting all the time and it seemed like Asuelu almost wanted to be exposed to coronavirus because he was going out with his friends a lot and allegedly lying about his whereabouts.
"I need to protect my kids. I can't keep letting him do whatever the hell he wants," Kalani said. "I'm not just going to let him back in the house with the babies."
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After a big fight, Kalani told Asuelu to go to his mother's place in Washington State. She said their marriage wasn't working any more and she didn't know what was going to happen.
Kalani said she needed a break from Asuelu and wasn't even sure whether they'd work as a couple again. She also said Asuelu hadn't been helping her with the kids or around the house.
Kalani told her mother Lisa that she caught Asuelu lying because she had put a tracker on his phone. Asuelu told Kalani he was out for a drive one day when he was really playing volleyball with his friends amid the coronavirus pandemic.
"I'm with someone who just gives me nothing. At this point, I don't really see the point of being married anymore. I really am just done... I don't see the point of it all. I've just been fighting and trying my hardest, and it's just me trying," Kalani cried.
"There's, like, 20 percent of me that's waiting to see if he'll change or do something different, but I'm not going to hold my breath."
Lisa said she just wanted to see her daughter happy and no longer cared if Asuelu and Kalani stayed together. Kalani and Lisa wanted what would be best for her boys, and Asuelu told the cameras he didn't want to go or be away from his family.
Kalani acknowledged love just didn't seem to be enough and their relationship was not working.
Did Kalani and Asuelu stay separated for good and are they divorcing each other -- or is the 90 Day Fiance couple still together and married?
Asuelu is still working at the same nutrition store in Utah -- which is near the home he shares with Kalani -- where he was shown passing out free samples on an episode of 90 Day Fiance: Happily Ever After?.ADVERTISEMENT
In late August, Asuelu called Kalani his "wife" when telling fans they can now book him for Cameo videos.
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And back in late July, Asuelu captioned a series of photos of his family in Pine Valley, UT. They appeared to do some hiking by a lake.
"Family Adventure #blessed #love #utahcheck," Asuelu captioned the slideshow.
Asuelu also posted a TikTok video of himself dancing in the couple's kitchen about a week earlier, and Kalani can be seen in the background preparing food for her family.
Asuelu captioned the video, "Morning routine after riding the bus."
In early July, Asuelu wished Kalani a happy birthday on his Instagram account by posting a video of his wife and son. He wrote over the video "love of my life."
And in the caption, Asuelu gushed, "My wife's birthday. Cheers for 32nd years my love @kalanifaagata and many more to come."
Not only has Kalani also posted recent photos with Asuelu on Instagram, but the couple additionally shared two YouTube videos on their channel this past summer after not uploading anything on their channel for almost a year.
On June 30, Kalani posted a sweet photo of Asuelu cuddling with their boys on Instagram Stories.
One week earlier, Kalani posted a smiling selfie with Asuelu, a video of Asuelu laughing in a massage chair, and brief throwback clips of the couple's axe-throwing date.
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