90 Day Fiance star Kalani Faagata confessed she wants to be "done" with Asuelu Pulaa and maybe end her married on Season 5 of 90 Day Fiance: Happily Ever After?, so did Kalani actually break up with her husband or is the couple still together now?
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[90 Day Fiance Spoiler Warning: This report contains spoilers revealing if Kalani and Asuelu are still together or if the 90 Day Fiance: Happily Ever After? couple has split up.]
Kalani, a 31-year-old from Orange County, CA, and Asuelu, a 24-year-old from Samoa, met in July 2016 and first starred on Season 6 of 90 Day Fiance in 2019.RELATED LINK: '90 DAY FIANCE' COUPLES NOW: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? WHO IS STILL TOGETHER? WHO HAS SPLIT? (PHOTOS)
The pair met when Kalani was visiting a resort where Asuelu worked as the activities director, and they pursued a relationship even though Kalani had to return to America.
Kalani and Asuelu kept dating, and then Kalani eventually flew back Samoa, where she lost her virginity to Asuelu. Much to Kalani and her family's surprise, Kalani got pregnant.
Kalani's Mormon family was disappointed in Kalani's decisions and choice of partner, especially since her father Low didn't want any of girls to get involved with a Samoan man like himself.
Kalani, however, ignored her family's concerns and doubts about Asuelu and went ahead and applied for a K-1 visa so Asuelu could move to the United States. At this point, the couple's son Oliver was five months old.
Once Asuelu moved to America, the pair only had 90 days to determine whether they should tie the knot. Kalani believed she was in love, and so she and Asuelu got married in September 2018.
90 Day Fiance's sixth season concluded on TV with Kalani and Asuelu's wedding as well as Kalani learning she was pregnant with their second child.
Kalani and Asuelu found out they were expecting Baby No. 2 together less than a year after she had given birth to Oliver, which was another big surprise!
Kalani and Asuelu are now parents of two sons: Oliver, whom the couple welcomed in January 2018, and Kennedy, who was born in May 2019.
About four months later, Kalani suggested in a poll on her Instagram that Asuelu wasn't helping her with the kids and she felt totally overwhelmed.
"Do all husbands expect their wives to pay bills, clean the whole house, do all the laundry, feed/watch the kids 24/7 (unless said husband is in public or wants a selfie)?" Kalani asked in the September 2019 poll. "Asking for my gottdamn self. Is this normal?"
RELATED LINK: '90 DAY FIANCE' COUPLES NOWApparently 70 percent of Kalani's followers who participated in the poll answered "No."
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However, the couple appeared to be a very happy family at Christmas time in December 2019.
On 90 Day Fiance: Happily Ever After?'s fifth season, Asuelu was shown at work passing out free samples. The couple had been married for one year and three months at the time of filming.
Kalani suggested her marriage was suffering and she was exhausted all the time, so her parents moved in with the couple to help them out with the boys, which apparently upset Asuelu because he no longer was the man of the house.
Kalani believed Asuelu would rather play volleyball or video games after work than spend time with his family, and she felt romance had gone out the window.
"I just wish that Asuelu and I could get back to the point where we were in the beginning of our relationship, where we loved to be around each other. I just miss that, and if Asuelu refuses to change, I don't know if I can keep doing this anymore," Kalani said in a confessional.
Kalani's dad Low also wanted Asuelu to "step up" and stop "f-cking around." Low said Asuelu would get his "ass whooped or sent back to Samoa" if things didn't change for the better.
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Not only would the trip cost thousands of dollars in plane fare alone, but there had also been a Measles outbreak recently -- and children in Samoa were dying from it.
Asuelu and Kalani's son Kennedy wasn't vaccinated and wasn't supposed to get that MMR vaccine until 12-24 months old, according to his doctor, so Kalani put her foot down about the family vacation to ensure her seven-month-old's safety.
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Instead of going to Samoa, Kalani drove her family to California in order to celebrate Oliver's second birthday, but Asuelu was grumpy and resentful.
"I think Kalani can't do what mother in Samoa do," said Asuelu, who also claimed being a stay-at-home mom is "easy."
Kalani argued that she was the one up all night with both of their sick kids when she was sick too and did "everything for them," and Asuelu called her out for being "annoying" as well as a "lying b-tch."
Kalani's mother was driving the car and scolded Asuelu for talking to her daughter that way, which only made Asuelu more frustrated.
"I don't know how your husband talk to you when you guys been together. But it's my wife; I can talk whatever," Asuelu said. "Your daughter asks stupid questions."
Kalani's mother called Asuelu "disrespectful," and Kalani felt Asuelu was trying to sabotage the weekend and ruin it for everyone as a way to get back at her for canceling their trip to Samoa.
"It just shows me that he doesn't really care about me and the boys and he's just No. 1 to himself," Kalani complained in a confessional, later adding that she'd never be "subservient" to a man.
During a heated confrontation in the backyard, Kalani called Asuelu "a manipulator" because of his attempts to change the subject every time he wanted to back himself out of an uncomfortable conversation. She desired "an equal partnership."
Since the pair couldn't reach a resolution and Asuelu felt Kalani didn't respect what he contributed to their family, Asuelu took off with his suitcase by boarding a bus to Utah.
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That night, Asuelu apparently sent Kalani three false locations to drive to in order to pick him up, and once she was ready to give up, he finally gave his actual location.
Kalani's sister Kolini said Asuelu "sucked the life" out of her sister and it was hard to see, and Kalani's whole family thought Asuelu was "in the wrong" and had behaved rudely.
Asuelu even refused to attend Oliver's birthday party at first and hid in a bedroom.
Asuelu later apologized to Kalani, admitting he was "so wrong in saying that a woman in Samoa is better" than his wife, but Kalani was tired of Asuelu speaking and not acting.
In order to smooth things over, however, Kalani agreed to visit Asuelu's mother Lesina and two half-sisters in Washington State.
Asuelu wanted to bring gifts for his family and give his mother $1,000, which Lesina had asked for, but Kalani rejected that idea and said they couldn't afford it.
Kalani agreed to let Asuelu buy $200 worth of gifts and give his mother an additional $100. After all, Asuelu was only working part-time.
Kalani figured Asuelu was "trying to buy his family's love" and it was no longer "a cultural thing." She felt bad for her husband and was angry with Asuelu's family.
It had been about a year since Asuelu last saw his mother and sisters Tammy and Rosa, but it didn't take long for the women to bring up money once Asuelu reunited with them.
Asuelu's mother was shocked he only had $100 for her, and Tammy advised Asuelu to step up like a man and work full-time.
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Tammy told Asuelu that he needed to put their parents first "no matter what."
"Well do you send money home?" Kalani asked.
Tammy was quiet for a moment and said, "It's none of your business." But Kalani argued it was her business, suggesting she and Asuelu shouldn't be held responsible for something Tammy didn't even do herself.
Asuelu told the cameras he didn't have money for his family because he had to support his children and wanted to be an American man, and Tammy accused Asuelu of letting Kalani control him and tell him what to do.
"I love my family. I love my wife. And I think that I can't have both," Asuelu said.
Asuelu eventually cried about the situation, telling his mother that his kids could die if he gave all of his money to his parents.
Lesina said she still wanted Asuelu to send money to his parents in Samoa, and Kalani was shocked and called "this b-tch crazy."
Kalani later met with Lesina and Tammy in attempt to talk some sense into them, but the discussion turned out to be a disaster.
"I just don't know why you feel entitled to me and my family's money... At the end of the day, it is going to be what I say," Kalani told Asuelu's relatives.
Asuelu's mother called Kalani "lazy" for not working and pleaded, "Just give me money. That's all I want... I don't care about the kids. I want to take back my son to Samoa to do his duty as before."
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But Kalani said, "All I've done is love Asuelu."
Kalani said she was "done" with this circus, and then Tammy went after her, looking for a fight physically. Tammy screamed at Kalani as Asuelu's mother held her back, and Kalani called Asuelu's relatives "nuts."
When Kalani returned to her husband, she shared the events that had transpired and all Asuelu seemed concerned with was whether Kalani or Tammy would win in a fight. Kalani grew so frustrated that she called Asuelu "a lunatic," who in turn dubbed Kalani "f-cking crazy."
Kalani no longer felt supported by her husband, and she worried he'd never change.
Kolini told Kalani that she was too good for Asuelu and didn't deserve to live that way. Kolini advised her sister to leave the relationship for her own well-being.
"I do feel like I love him still," Kalani griped. "I just feel like every day, it's getting less and less, and I feel like if it keeps continuing on like this, I won't want to be a part of this marriage anymore."
Asuelu apparently overheard Kalani and Kolini talking about him after Kalani had met with his mother Lesina and sister Tammy, so he and Kalani got into a big fight once the cameras left.
Kalani and Kolini spent the night in a hotel and then Kolini flew back home and Kalani postponed her and Asuelu's flight back to Utah.
Kalani said Asuelu had screamed at her at one point and wasn't acting like "his typical self." Kalani said the trip was supposed to bring Asuelu closer to his family but it just ultimately ruined their relationship.
"I'm going to go home. I'm going to the airport with or without him, and then me and him need to have a big talk about what to do from here, because I can't live like this. I really think he needs to talk to a therapist... because something needs to change," Kalani told her mother on videochat.
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"I'm questioning if I can even do this anymore... [I want to see] if we can fix his behavior, and if not, I just need to not be with him," Kalani admitted.
Kalani wished her marriage was about love, happiness and supporting each other, and she confessed that that's not what she had. Kalani said if she was an outsider looking in, she would advise herself to be "done," however, Kalani felt the need to stay since she has two sons with Asuelu.
Kalani and Asuelu later reunited, and Asuelu apparently pretended like nothing had happened. He showed up with balloons and flowers because it was Valentine's Day, but Kalani wanted him to apologize and take responsibility for his actions.
Kalani told her husband that they needed to talk about their issues and work out their problems.
Asuelu didn't appreciate Kolini getting involved in their argument and he said he didn't feel like Kalani was listening to him -- and so he left.
"Me being your wife doesn't mean that you have possession of me," Kalani told Asuelu. "You don't like that my family tries to stick up for me, and you take that as my family is trying to mess up our marriage."
Kalani told Asuelu that she wanted to see a therapist or marriage counselor, and Asuelu replied, "I think that's a good idea." The couple just had to get home in one piece.
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The more the couple talked in the car on the way to the airport, however, the more mad Asuelu apparently became. Kalani vented to the cameras she needed "a f-cking break" from her husband.
"I am tired and I'm emotionally exhausted... I just need to go home and figure things out. I don't know, I just want to be done. I don't want to be married anymore," Kalani confessed. "I love him, but I have to start loving myself and loving my boys more."
Did Kalani call it quits on her relationship with Asuelu or is the 90 Day Fiance couple still together?
Asuelu is still working at the same nutrition store in Utah -- which is near the home he shares with Kalani -- where he was shown passing out free samples on an episode of 90 Day Fiance: Happily Ever After?.ADVERTISEMENT
In late August, Asuelu called Kalani his "wife" when telling fans they can now book him for Cameo videos.
And back in late July, Asuelu captioned a series of photos of his family in Pine Valley, UT. They appeared to do some hiking by a lake.
"Family Adventure #blessed #love #utahcheck," Asuelu captioned the slideshow.
Asuelu also posted a TikTok video of himself dancing in the couple's kitchen about a week earlier, and Kalani can be seen in the background preparing food for her family.
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Asuelu captioned the video, "Morning routine after riding the bus."
In early July, Asuelu wished Kalani a happy birthday on his Instagram account by posting a video of his wife and son. He wrote over the video "love of my life."
And in the caption, Asuelu gushed, "My wife's birthday. Cheers for 32nd years my love @kalanifaagata and many more to come."
Not only has Kalani also posted recent photos with Asuelu on Instagram, but the couple has additionally shared two YouTube videos on their channel in the last month after not uploading anything on their channel for almost a year.
As recently as June 30, Kalani posted a sweet photo of Asuelu cuddling with their boys on Instagram Stories.
One week earlier, Kalani posted a smiling selfie with Asuelu, a video of Asuelu laughing in a massage chair, and brief throwback clips of the couple's axe-throwing date.
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On May 24, Kalani posted a video clip on Instagram of Asuelu and herself talking about how they had once walked through a jungle in Samoa and explored a cave together.
The couple was promoting a video they had posted on YouTube.
"In honor of #samoanlanguageweek, we posted a YouTube video where I butcher basic Samoan, and we talk about our dating life in Samoa (pictures included)," Kalani wrote on Instagram.
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A couple of weeks earlier on May 8, Kalani and Asuelu posted a YouTube video of how they celebrated Kennedy's first birthday.
Kalani and Asuelu enjoyed many laughs as Kennedy was spoiled with a fun pool day, gifts, cake, bubbles and a pinata.
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