90 Day Fiance couple Kalani Faagata and Asuelu Pulaa's marriage was falling apart by the end of 90 Day Fiance: Happily Ever After?'s fifth season, so did the couple break up or are they still together? What do 90 Day Fiance spoilers reveal about the current status of Kalani and Asuelu's relationship?
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[90 Day Fiance Spoiler Warning: This report includes spoilers revealing if Kalani and Asuelu are still together now or if the 90 Day Fiance couple has split up.]
Kalani, a 31-year-old from Orange County, CA, and Asuelu, a 24-year-old from Samoa, met in July 2016 and first starred on Season 6 of 90 Day Fiance in 2019.RELATED LINK: '90 DAY FIANCE' COUPLES NOW: WHO IS STILL TOGETHER? WHO HAS SPLIT? WHERE ARE THEY NOW? (PHOTOS)
Kalani and Asuelu met when Kalani was visiting a resort where Asuelu worked as the activities director, and the couple pursued a long-distance relationship once Kalani returned to home to America.
Once the pair communicated and got to know each other better, Kalani traveled back to Samoa to spend more time with Asuelu.
During that trip, Kalani lost her virginity and the pair had sex for the first time, which resulted in a surprise pregnancy that rocked Kalani's world and shocked her whole family.
Kalani's conservative Mormon family was disappointed in Kalani's actions and choice of partner, especially since her father Low didn't want any of daughters to get involved with a Samoan man like himself, but Kalani opted to follow her heart.
Kalani hated that her family didn't love Asuelu, but she went ahead and applied for a K-1 visa so Asuelu could move to the United States and become a hands-on father. At this time, Kalani and Asuelu's son Oliver was five months old.
Once Asuelu moved to the United States, there was quite an adjustment period as he attempted to acclimate to American culture.
90 Day Fiance's sixth season concluded with Kalani and Asuelu's September 2018 wedding ceremony as well as Kalani finding out she was pregnant with their second child.
Kalani and Asuelu found out they were expecting Baby No. 2 together less than a year after she had given birth to Oliver, and the news was totally unexpected.
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Kalani and Asuelu are now parents of son Oliver, whom the couple welcomed in January 2018, and son Kennedy, who was born in May 2019.
RELATED LINK: '90 DAY FIANCE' COUPLES NOWAbout Kennedy's birth, Kalani suggested on Instagram that Asuelu wasn't helping her with the kids and she felt totally overwhelmed with all of her responsibilities.
On 90 Day Fiance: Happily Ever After?'s fifth season, Asuelu and Kalani had been married for one year and three months at the time of filming. Asuelu was working part-time and shown passing out free samples at a frozen yogurt shop.
Kalani suggested her marriage was suffering and she was exhausted all the time, so her parents moved in with the couple to help them out with the boys, which apparently upset Asuelu because he no longer was the man of the house.
Kalani believed Asuelu would rather play volleyball or video games after work than spend time with his family, and she felt romance had gone out the window in her relationship.
Kalani's dad Low also wanted Asuelu to "step up" and stop "f-cking around." Low said Asuelu would get his "ass whooped or sent back to Samoa" if things didn't change for the better.
But Asuelu continued to disappoint Kalani and her family. He even fought with his wife during trip to California for Oliver's second birthday.
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In the car ride to California, Asuelu complained, "I think Kalani can't do what mother in Samoa do," adding that being a stay-at-home mom is "easy."
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Kalani's mother was driving the car and scolded Asuelu for being "disrespectful" and talking to her daughter that way, which only made Asuelu more frustrated.
"I don't know how your husband talk to you when you guys been together. But it's my wife; I can talk whatever," Asuelu said. "Your daughter asks stupid questions."
Kalani subsequently called Asuelu "a manipulator" and said she demands "an equal partnership."
Kalani's sister Kolini said Asuelu "sucked the life" out of her sister and it was hard to see.
Asuelu later apologized to Kalani, but Kalani wanted to see change in his actions since his words were no longer enough. She also wanted her husband to stand up to his mother and sister given they were allegedly constantly demanding money that Kalani didn't feel they had to give.
Kalani wished her marriage was about love, happiness and supporting each other, but she believed Asuelu just wanted to take possession of her.
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"I don't know, I just want to be done. I don't want to be married anymore," Kalani confessed. "I love him, but I have to start loving myself and loving my boys more."
Kalani persuaded Asuelu to go to therapy or counseling together because she had reached her "breaking point."
"I'm done at this point. I'm giving him a last chance and he's either going to take it or he's going to take his sh-t out of the house," Kalani shared in a confessional.
The couple discussed their issues with a therapist, including how Asuelu longed to be head of their household. Kalani also shared how she didn't want to be viewed as her husband's property.
Kalani and Asuelu's progress led to a fairly happy three months until the global outbreak of coronavirus in early 2020.
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Kalani said she and Asuelu were fighting all the time and it seemed like Asuelu almost wanted to be exposed to coronavirus because he was going out with his friends a lot and allegedly lying about his whereabouts.
"I need to protect my kids. I can't keep letting him do whatever the hell he wants," Kalani said. "I'm not just going to let him back in the house with the babies."
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After a big fight, Kalani told Asuelu to go to his mother's place in Washington State. She said their marriage wasn't working any more and she didn't know what was going to happen.
Kalani told her mother Lisa that she caught Asuelu lying because she had put a tracker on his phone. Asuelu told Kalani he was out for a drive one day when he was really playing volleyball with his friends amid the pandemic.
"I'm with someone who just gives me nothing. At this point, I don't really see the point of being married anymore. I really am just done... I don't see the point of it all. I've just been fighting and trying my hardest, and it's just me trying," Kalani cried.
"There's, like, 20 percent of me that's waiting to see if he'll change or do something different, but I'm not going to hold my breath."
Kalani acknowledged love just didn't seem to be enough and their relationship was not working.
During Part 1 of 90 Day Fiance: Happily Ever After?'s Season 5 Tell-All that aired in September 2020, Kalani and Asuelu apparently hadn't been communicating much at all.
Kalani explained she and her husband were in a toxic pattern of fighting -- Asuelu leaving, Asuelu returning, getting along, and then fighting again.
When asked to reveal the status of their relationship, Kalani replied, "Today we are together and we are living together, but we aren't anywhere near where we used to be in the universe together. We are just stuck in a really rocky place right now."
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Kalani thought Asuelu was putting her family in danger by continuing to teach dance classes as COVID-19 rapidly spread, and Kolini suggested Asuelu is just not a considerate person.
"I'm looking forward to the day when it ends," Kolini acknowledged on the Tell-All, before adding, "Do I see them together in the future? I don't at this point in time."
Kalani's mom Lisa agreed Kalani's marriage won't last unless Asuelu made some major changes, and Kolini said Asuelu needed to learn how to stop being combative.
But Asuelu argued he could call his wife a "b-tch" if he wanted to.
As Asuelu appeared to end the conversation and attempt to leave the room and take off his microphone, Kolini pointed out, "This is what he does."
Kalani said Asuelu has difficulty expressing his feelings and so he gets "super defensive."
So are Kalani and Asuelu still together now? What's the latest on the 90 Day Fiance couple's relationship?
Kalani and Asuelu -- who recently competed on 90 Day Fiance: Love Games on Discovery's new discovery+ streaming service -- appear to still be together and married.Their story will unfold on the upcoming sixth season of 90 Day Fiance: Happily Ever After?, which premieres Sunday, April 25 at 8PM ET/PT on TLC.
In February 2021, Kalani revealed she and Asuelu were trying to work out their issues.
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"I think the pandemic was hard for all couples, and we already had a bunch of issues going into it, so I think we've just been trying our best, and that's just where we are," Kalani told Entertainment Tonight.
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Kalani confirmed she wouldn't say she's in a "great" or "perfect" spot.
"But I think we're good. We're working, we're both putting in the effort. It's not horrible like it was, but it's not amazing. We're getting there," Kalani shared.
"I would say we are getting to the right way. We are on the right track," Asuelu added.
However, Kalani is apparently approaching her marriage with a realistic point of view -- that it may not work out in the end.
"I just think that marriage is very hard and when you have a lot of other issues, like cultural issues and language issues and all of these things, it just makes it very complicated," Kalani told ET.
"But for right now, we are trying our best and hopefully, that works out. But, I mean, you never really know."
Asuelu also confirmed he started taking coronavirus seriously and "stopping going out" and "hanging out" with his friends.
"He's being a lot more cautious now, which is nice," Kalani shared.
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Asuelu also said he regrets how he treated Kalani at times on Season 5 of 90 Day Fiance: Happily Ever After?, including calling Kalani a "lying b-tch" in front of her mother.
Asuelu, calling that insult his "lowest point," explained to ET, "I think that's not who I am. I watch it and I hate it, and I don't want to be that person, but you know, it's good. I learned, it's a good lesson... [I'm] growing up, and... [becoming] a better person."
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"It just made him be better because a lot of people attacked him, so it made him look at himself and say, 'Yeah, probably shouldn't talk like that or do things like that.' So, I think overall, it probably helped our relationship more than anything," Kalani shared.
Kalani and Asuelu don't post about each other on Instagram or share photos with one another. Asuelu, for instance, has a surplus of videos with his two boys but Kalani isn't featured in any of them.
However, Kalani appeared to enjoy a family beach trip with Asuelu, her father, her two boys and her sister Kolini. Although Kalani cropped Asuelu's head out of the photos, his leg tattoos are a dead giveaway he was there.
And to ring in 2021, Kalani posted a video montage on Instagram of pictures taken in 2020, and Asuelu was featured in most of them.
Kalani and Asuelu also celebrated Christmas together in December 2020, and it seems they were still a couple one month earlier at Thanksgiving.
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