Andi Dorfman lashes out at Juan Pablo Galavis for not caring, 'The Bachelor' star stands his ground

Andi Dorfman lashed out at The Bachelor star Juan Pablo Galavis and the two just didn't see eye to eye at any point in their alleged heated 45-minute conversation during Tuesday night's special broadcast.


Dorfman, who shockingly dumped The Bachelor star during Tuesday night's special episode, and the remaining Top 3 bachelorettes Clare Crawley and Nikki Ferrell each received a romantic overnight date with Galavis. While Crawley and Ferrell realized they had fallen in love with Galavis, Dorfman acknowledged she fell completely out of love with him, and if anything, felt disgusted.

A show source told Us Weekly Dorfman slept with Galavis and stayed up the rest of the night talking in their fantasy suite, resulting in the bachelorette forming a brand new opinion of him -- that he's an arrogant, rude asshole who didn't care about her. Galavis did not see things from Dorfman's perspective at all and thought he did nothing wrong, further escalating her frustration.

"I realized that I wasn't in love with you and I wasn't going to be, and despite all the great feelings and the great adventures, it wasn't going to work. And so, that's a hard thing for me to realize after all this time," Dorfman told Galavis after their fantasy-suite date.

"That's fine, it's okay," Galavis said. "If it's meant to be, it's meant to be. If it's not meant to be, it's not meant to be. It's good that you told me how you feel, and if you don't think it's me, it's okay. I respect you 100 percent."


"It shouldn't just be okay. It's not okay! I know I didn't leave behind a child but I left behind family and friends and a job and I missed weddings and I missed things, and I did that all willingly. But because of all that and because of the fact I really put myself out there, it's not okay, and when you say it's okay, that bothers me," Dorfman explained.

"I don't want you to be bothered. I want you to understand that I cannot force you to feel something for me. If you don't feel it, there's nothing I can do. I have you here because I liked you since Week 2. So it's your decision. It's not my decision. I can love you, I can do whatever I want. But if you don't feel it, Andi, it's okay," Galavis said.

"Yeah but you saying it's okay comes across to me like you not having feelings," Dorfman noted.

"No, no, no, no, no," Galavis disagreed.

"English is my second language. Forget that I said 'it's okay...' You just have to think about one guy. I'm not. I have to think about other people too. So to me, it's okay, I respect you. I respect you as a woman, I respect you as a person, I totally appreciate you being honest with me. So am I going to die right now? No. But is it sad for me? It's sad. Because I like Andi. I do like Andi. If I didn't like you from Week 2, trust me, you would not be here."


"That doesn't seem real to me because you don't even really know who I am. I feel like every time I've tried to explain things whether it was in Vietnam or in Miami, my nervousness, you don't know why I'm nervous for you to meet my family! Because your response was always just, 'It's okay, it's okay, it's okay.' Everything is always 'it's okay' and I want to die if I have to hear 'it's okay' again! I can't handle it," Dorfman argued.

"That's fine. What do you want me to do, honestly? I respect you," he replied.

"Feel something or have some emotion!" Dorfman suggested.

"I have some emotions. It doesn't make me happy that one of the girls has been in the Top 3 from Week 2 saying to me goodbye. It doesn't make me feel good. It makes me sad. So, this is life and that's the reality of life," Galavis explained.

"Let me ask you this. When you tell me that you already had an overnight date with Clare, do you think that's offensive?" Dorfman asked him.


"I'm being honest," Galavis said. "[Being] honest, is that offensive? You know there's three overnights."

"Right, which is exactly why I don't need you to tell me that," Dorfman noted.

"Okay, that's fine," Galavis said. "I didn't know you were going to take it that way, I guess, but it's fine."

"How else would I take that?" she asked. "It's not fine. You joked about me being here by default. It's not fine. I'm upset!"

"I'm being honest," Galavis insisted.


"Do I appreciate honesty? Absolutely. Do I think in my opinion you take it too far? Absolutely. And it comes to the point where it hurts my feelings... When you said something about between [Renee Oteri] and I -- I'm here by default or something, that hurt my feelings," Dorfman explained.

Galavis said he understood that but did not use the word "default" because it's just not a word in his vocabulary. Dorfman argued he definitely said the word, although the Bachelor kept insisting he said something along the lines of, "You barely made it."

"There's a difference between being honest and being an asshole," Dorfman said.

"Okay, fine. If that's how you see it, okay," Galavis noted, explaining he tried to tell Dorfman he had doubts about their relationship after she made a comment about herself "wanting to fall in love so badly" during hometown dates. 

After some more bickering, Dorfman said she didn't feel like Galavis ever really tried to get to know her -- her religion, political views, or thoughts on social issues and raising children.


"I have no idea about any of that," Galavis admitted.

"I really feel like you're not taking this seriously, you don't take me seriously, I don't know," Dorfman said.

Galavis wished Dorfman had told him she wanted to talk about more serious things in the fantasy suite, and she admitted maybe she should have. Dorfman just explained she wants a man who will work through her emotions with her, ask her questions about her life and not try to make everything about him. She said every time she tried to share a story with him, he'd have a different story to talk about instead.

"Andi, I don't want to argue with you," Galavis said. "If I didn't take this seriously, you wouldn't be here."

Both parties didn't like how things ended. Dorfman asked him never to say "it's okay" again because it was "bad and annoying." After trying to calm down the situation, Galavis told her that he appreciated her honesty and he walked her out.

"The arguments just disappointed me right away. She's a lawyer. I'm not going to argue with a lawyer," Galavis said after Dorfman left. "Honestly, putting words in my mouth, it just killed. It killed it right there. If she wanted to stay, I would say 'no,' because that little argument to me, that's it."


In her final words, Dorfman told the cameras her issues with The Bachelor star had nothing to do with a language barrier because he just "didn't see it" and would "never get it." He allegedly made her feel bad about herself and put her down in his attempt to be honest.






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