Married at First Sight star Mindy Shiben has revealed her conversation with Zach Justice on the first night of their honeymoon in Panama was actually the third time Zach had brought up his lack of attraction to her since their wedding and that's why she reacted so strongly.
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On Wednesday night's episode of Married at First Sight: Unfiltered, the show's host Jamie Otis sat down with Season 10 brides Mindy, Meka Jones and Jessica Studer to watch back a clip of Mindy sadly roaming the hallways in her Panama hotel late at night.
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"I don't want to go back to that room because he told me, 'I'm not building any kind of attraction to you, and what do you want me to do about that?' And I told him, 'Well, I guess this isn't going to work out,' and he says, 'That's not the response I was hoping for,'" Mindy recorded herself saying on a camera.
"I can't even say I'm hurt. I'm actually, like, it's quite funny -- I'm kind of just thinking, 'Who the f-ck is this guy and what the f-ck did I marry?' This was probably a really, really bad idea."
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After Jamie admitted that clip was "really hard to watch back," Mindy dropped a bomb, revealing her conversation that night was actually the third time Zach had told her that he wasn't attracted to her.
"Well, at that point, it was, like, the third time he told me he wasn't attracted to me," Mindy admitted on Unfiltered.
"Right after our wedding, he said something like he was having a hard time building attraction. And then right when we got to Panama, he said again, like, he just doesn't know what to do when he's not attracted to somebody."
Mindy continued, "And then he tells me right before that [video clip]. It's not fun to hear your husband tell you that he's not physically attracted to you. He seems to just be stuck on that."
Mindy had a hard time grappling with the fact her new husband was missing a spark in their marriage.
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"And so, I'm just thinking, like, 'Okay, I don't think I'm an unattractive person or anything, but my husband doesn't think I'm attractive, and it hurts.' Yeah, it hurts," Mindy shared.
"I don't know what to do at this point. He needs to put that somewhere else and get know me as a person or decide that he's not physically attracted to me and so that's that [and we're done]. I don't know what to tell him."
Jessica then rushed to Mindy's defense on Unfiltered.
"The fact that he was like, 'I'm not attracted to you. What do you think I should do about it?' That's a him problem; that's not a you problem," Jessica insisted.
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"I think you are extremely attractive and pretty. You don't need to change yourself at all."
Jamie wholeheartedly agreed and said, "Yeah."
But Jessica noted it was natural for all the brides and grooms going into Married at First Sight to fear an attraction would be lacking on either end.
"We all went into this probably thinking, 'What if I'm not attracted to them or what if they're not attracted to me?' That was a very real thing for me that I was thinking a lot about this whole process," Jessica explained.
Meka, however, pointed out the Married at First Sight experts weren't looking to match Prince Charmings with supermodels.
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Pastor Calvin Roberson even said during Married at First Sight's tenth-season premiere men and women would be matched with "real-life" partners, not spouses of their dreams.
"We didn't sign up for a person that was going to be handsome no matter what, like, we didn't pick this person," Meka said.
"You went into it knowing that you might be attracted and you might not, and you should have prepared yourself for, 'Okay, if I'm not attracted, then what?'"
Jamie then asked Mindy what Zach could do in order to fix the situation and hopefully develop chemistry with her.
"Well, I do think he owes me an apology for hurting my feelings like that, but I just think it's really going to take him to not focus on the physical and just get to know me as just a person," Mindy explained.
"Even though it's hard to have hope right now, I do still have hope because I didn't sign up for this to just meet someone, see if we'll click and then walk away. I signed up for this to be in a lifelong marriage."
Mindy concluded, "I'm here and I'm going to do my best to make this work."
Jamie gave props to Mindy for having an optimistic attitude and said, "Good for you."
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In the latest episode of Married at First Sight, Mindy tried desperately to open Zach up although it resulted in some awkward explanations on his part and Mindy accusing her husband of "talking in circles" without really saying anything.
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However, a day of exploring local culture in Panama sparked organic conversation and seemed to bond the couple. Zach even told his wife his favorite part of the day was spending it with her.
Married at First Sight's currently-airing tenth season also stars Meka's husband Michael Watson and Jessica's husband Austin Hurd as well as Katie Conrad and Derek Sherman and Taylor Dunklin and Brandon Reid.
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