'The Bachelor's Clare Crawley: Juan Pablo Galavis and I did not have sex in the ocean, he made me feel awful

Clare Crawley, a 32-year-old hairstylist from Sacramento, CA, is still in the running for The Bachelor star Juan Pablo Galavis' heart.


Clare has been stealing Juan Pablo away for some alone time on group dates, rubbing the other girls the wrong way. However, Juan Pablo seems equally as interested in Clare, showering her in attention. After a steamy session in the pool of Juan Pablo's Vietnam suite, Clare asked the Bachelor to take a late-night swim with her in the ocean and he enthusiastically agreed.

But after he had some time to think, Juan Pablo regretted his actions and told Clare what they had done was wrong -- leading viewers and the media to speculate they had sex in the ocean. Clare was very hurt and taken aback by Juan Pablo's change of heart, and their conversation has yet to be finished as the pack is heading off to New Zealand.

During a Thursday conference call with reporters, Clare talked to Reality TV World about her The Bachelor experience thus far. Below is what she had to say. Check back with us on Friday for more.

Reality TV World: Juan Pablo clearly felt guilt and regret about his late night swim with you in the ocean, and once he voiced that to you, you became extremely emotional and confused. And because of how strongly you both reacted to the incident, it prompted a lot of speculation and media reports that you two actually had sex. So I want to give you a chance to set the record straight on that.


Clare Crawley: Mmm, definitely. First of all, I'm thankful to have this opportunity to even talk about this, because I don't think that it was made clear by anybody that that's NOT what happened.

And I don't want that to be -- I mean, I don't want that incident to be anything equivocal, and so, I do want to say that that's not what happened. That was not my intention going into it. Everyone in that situation as well knows that that's not what happened. So I think that's why I got caught offguard, because that didn't happen.

Reality TV World: Another reason people started speculating that you had sex with Juan Pablo was because of comments you two had made. Like Juan Pablo said, "What happened, happened." And you said, "We went for it and I don't regret it." You also made a toast to "making love" in front of the other girls. Do you feel the editors almost went out of their way to give the impression that you two had sex? And if so, are you disappointed or upset?

Clare Crawley: I can see how people can think that, but first of all, my toast, I am the worst at giving toasts. I never give toasts. I wish I backed out of that because I don't -- I'm just not good at it. And so, by the toasts that I had made, it was coming from a spot that nothing had happened, so that wasn't even on my radar.

So when I gave that toast, it was kind of more so my intentions for the future and my hopes and dreams for the future and something that I was looking forward to because I was falling in love.


And being in the ocean and swimming in the ocean, all those words and all those descriptive things that I was using to describe how I felt that night could be misinterpreted, but it was truthfully my description of falling in love. I don't know, I feel like people can take what they want from it and interpret it however they want, but my intention was all about falling in love.

Reality TV World: Chris Harrison said in an interview this week that despite Juan Pablo's apology to you after the ocean incident, the Bachelor still made you feel cheap and was even borderline rude to you. Do you agree with Chris Harrison on that? How did it make you feel?

Clare Crawley: I do agree with Chris Harrison. I think at the end of the day, it's your delivery on what you say and I don't think that's a language barrier. I think it's how you choose to make a woman feel and I think it's how sensitive you approach the topic, especially something involving, I don't know.

You just shouldn't make a woman cry whether it's right or wrong or whether you feel good about it. You shouldn't make a woman cry and it was pretty bad at the time. It was pretty bad and it made me feel awful.

Reality TV World: One thing that was a little strange was how Juan Pablo was so regretful of your swim in the ocean, but before that, he had invited you to swim in the pool at his own suite in Vietnam. How long were you two actually away from the group at that point and would the thought have ever crossed your mind to swim in the ocean had Juan Pablo not treated you so special at first by bringing you to his suite?


Clare Crawley: We were probably around the -- we were away from the girls for about 20 minutes probably, which wasn't unheard of because he pulled aside women for different amounts of time. But if we hadn't gone back to his suite, I think that was just a separate entity. I think it made me feel a lot more comfortable with asking him and I thought we were on the same page.

I didn't think that he would pull me aside in the first place to go swim in his pool during a cocktail party. I thought that was taking time away from the women, and I felt bad about that, but I was in the moment. I was loving it and I was more than happy to be doing it, because at that time, you're falling in love.

And so, like I said earlier, going swimming in the ocean, I wanted to do it with the girls. I wanted to do it by myself. It didn't matter who I did it with. I just wanted to swim in the ocean and check that off my bucket list. I never in my mind was thinking, "This is going to be something raunchy," or, "This is going to be something bad."

I literally wanted to check something off my bucket list and do it, and so, that had to have been -- he was the reason I was in Vietnam and it was only suiting for me to feel like, "He's the reason I'm here. When else am I going to be in Vietnam being able to swim in this warm bath water kind of a feel ocean?" I never felt that, and so, I would've done it with or without him regardless.

Reality TV World: Chris Harrison has kind of dubbed Juan Pablo a "rule changer," like he says one thing but then does another. Besides the ocean incident with you, we also saw that when he decided not kiss anyone on a group date such as Renee Oteri and Lauren Solomon but then ended up making out with you. What are your thoughts on that, and watching the episodes back, do you think he's a little hypocritical?


Clare Crawley: In the moment of it all, again, we don't see -- we don't talk amongst the girls about what happens with each other, or at least we didn't on this season. And so, we kind of kept everything to ourselves.

I didn't know he hadn't kissed anyone and I didn't talk about myself kissing him, so it was all kind of kept in the dark. Seeing it played back, it's definitely wishy-washy and it's definitely hypocritical. I had told him in a prior conversation with him that I didn't want to kiss him and I didn't want the physical part to be the focus of things.

And it's one thing if you don't want to kiss somebody, but don't blame it on something. Don't make an excuse for it. Just say, "I don't want to do that right now." Don't put yourself in a situation that you're going to feel pressure to do that. It's okay to not kiss everybody, but don't say something and do another.

During a Thursday conference call with reporters, Clare talked to Reality TV World about her The Bachelor experience thus far. Above is what she had to say. Check back with us on Friday for more.






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