90 Day Fiance couple Kalani Faagata and Asuelu Pulaa's marriage appeared to be hanging by a thread on the Season 5 Tell-All special for 90 Day Fiance: Happily Ever After?, so did the couple split up and go through with a divorce or are Kalani and Asuelu still together now?
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[90 Day Fiance Spoiler Warning: This report contains spoilers revealing if Kalani and Asuelu have separated and split or if the 90 Day Fiance: Happily Ever After? couple is still together and married.]
Kalani, a 31-year-old from Orange County, CA, and Asuelu, a 24-year-old from Samoa, met in July 2016 and first starred on Season 6 of 90 Day Fiance in 2019.RELATED LINK: '90 DAY FIANCE' COUPLES NOW: WHERE ARE THEY NOW? WHO IS STILL TOGETHER? WHO HAS SPLIT? (PHOTOS)
Kalani and Asuelu met when Kalani was visiting a resort where Asuelu worked as the activities director, and the couple pursued a long-distance relationship once Kalani returned to home to America.
Once the pair communicated and got to know each other better, Kalani traveled back to Samoa to spend more time with Asuelu.
During that trip, Kalani lost her virginity and the pair had sex for the first time, which resulted in a surprise pregnancy that rocked Kalani's world and shocked her whole family.
Kalani's conservative Mormon family was disappointed in Kalani's actions and choice of partner, especially since her father Low didn't want any of daughters to get involved with a Samoan man like himself, but Kalani opted to follow her heart.
Kalani hated that her family didn't love Asuelu, but she went ahead and applied for a K-1 visa so Asuelu could move to the United States and become a hands-on father. At this time, Kalani and Asuelu's son Oliver was five months old.
Once Asuelu moved to the United States, there was quite an adjustment period as he attempted to acclimate to American culture.
90 Day Fiance's sixth season concluded with Kalani and Asuelu's September 2018 wedding ceremony as well as Kalani finding out she was pregnant with their second child.
Kalani and Asuelu found out they were expecting Baby No. 2 together less than a year after she had given birth to Oliver, and the news was totally unexpected.
Kalani and Asuelu are now parents of son Oliver, whom the couple welcomed in January 2018, and son Kennedy, who was born in May 2019.
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RELATED LINK: '90 DAY FIANCE' COUPLES NOWAbout four months after Kennedy's birth, Kalani suggested in a poll on Instagram that Asuelu wasn't helping her with the kids and she felt totally overwhelmed with all of her responsibilities.
"Do all husbands expect their wives to pay bills, clean the whole house, do all the laundry, feed/watch the kids 24/7 (unless said husband is in public or wants a selfie)?" Kalani asked in the September 2019 poll. "Asking for my gottdamn self. Is this normal?"
Apparently 70 percent of Kalani's followers who participated in the poll answered "No."
However, the couple appeared to be a very happy family at Christmas time in December 2019.
On 90 Day Fiance: Happily Ever After?'s fifth season, Asuelu and Kalani had been married for one year and three months at the time of filming. Asuelu was working part-time and shown passing out free samples.
Kalani suggested her marriage was suffering and she was exhausted all the time, so her parents moved in with the couple to help them out with the boys, which apparently upset Asuelu because he no longer was the man of the house.
Kalani believed Asuelu would rather play volleyball or video games after work than spend time with his family, and she felt romance had gone out the window in her relationship.
Kalani's dad Low also wanted Asuelu to "step up" and stop "f-cking around." Low said Asuelu would get his "ass whooped or sent back to Samoa" if things didn't change for the better.
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Not only would the trip cost thousands of dollars in plane fare alone, but there had also been a Measles outbreak recently -- and children in Samoa were dying from it.
Asuelu and Kalani's seven-month-old son Kennedy wasn't vaccinated and wasn't supposed to get that MMR vaccine until 12-24 months old, according to his doctor, so Kalani put her foot down and pumped the breaks on Asuelu's dream vacation.
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Instead of going to Samoa, Kalani decided to celebrate Oliver's second birthday in California, but Asuelu was grumpy and resentful he couldn't get his way.
In the car ride to California, Asuelu complained, "I think Kalani can't do what mother in Samoa do," adding that being a stay-at-home mom is "easy."
Kalani argued that she was the one up all night with both of their sick kids when she was sick too and did "everything for them," and Asuelu called her out for being "annoying" as well as a "lying b-tch."
Kalani's mother was driving the car and scolded Asuelu for being "disrespectful" and talking to her daughter that way, which only made Asuelu more frustrated.
"I don't know how your husband talk to you when you guys been together. But it's my wife; I can talk whatever," Asuelu said. "Your daughter asks stupid questions."
Kalani felt Asuelu was trying to sabotage the weekend and didn't really care about her or their boys
Kalani subsequently called Asuelu "a manipulator" and said she demands "an equal partnership." But instead of talking things out, Asuelu took off on a bus and Kalani had to pick him up at a random location hours later.
Kalani's sister Kolini said Asuelu "sucked the life" out of her sister and it was hard to see. Asuelu even refused to attend Oliver's birthday party at first and hid in a bedroom.
Asuelu later apologized to Kalani, but Kalani wanted to see change in his actions since his words were no longer enough.
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Asuelu's mother Lesina asked for $1,000, which was a point of contention for Asuelu and Kalani. Kalani wanted to help out Asuelu's relatives but the couple barely had enough money for their own family.
It had been about a year since Asuelu last saw his mother and sisters Tammy and Rosa, but it didn't take long for the women to bring up money once Asuelu reunited with them.
Asuelu offered gifts and $100, which apparently wasn't enough for Lesina and Asuelu's sister Tammy.
Asuelu's mother later called Kalani "lazy" for not working and pleaded, "Just give me money. That's all I want... I don't care about the kids. I want to take back my son to Samoa to do his duty as before."
Tammy insisted Kalani was "brainwashing" Asuelu, but Kalani insisted she had done nothing but love her husband. The conversation nearly turned physical when Tammy went after Kalani.
Once Kalani told Asuelu what had happened, Asuelu kept cracking jokes about which woman would have won the fight, and Kalani called him "a lunatic."
"I just feel like every day, it's getting less and less, and I feel like if it keeps continuing on like this, I won't want to be a part of this marriage anymore," Kalani griped.
Kalani wished her marriage was about love, happiness and supporting each other, and she confessed that that's not what she had. In fact, Kalani believed Asuelu wanted to take possession of her.
"I am tired and I'm emotionally exhausted... I just need to go home and figure things out. I don't know, I just want to be done. I don't want to be married anymore," Kalani confessed. "I love him, but I have to start loving myself and loving my boys more."
Kalani said it was "insane" for her and Asuelu to keep living the same way, so the couple went to therapy or counseling together because Kalani had definitely reached her "breaking point."
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Kalani and Asuelu met with Dr. Matt Eschler and a Samoan translator, Ilena Williams.
The couple discussed their issues, including how Asuelu longed to be head of their household but Kalani didn't want to be viewed like her husband's property.
Asuelu also blamed Kalani for trying to ruin his relationship with his family.
Dr. Eschler was hoping the pair could begin new traditions that neither of them were accustomed to in order to blend their cultures and household responsibilities, and Kalani said she and Asuelu had made a little progress in that area.
"I love you and I'm trying to help our marriage and fix our marriage. It's not that I don't want to. I'll try for you," Kalani told Asuelu.
Asuelu later asked his family members, including his mother, to travel from Washington State to visit him in Utah in attempt to repair Kalani's relationship with them. Asuelu demanded that his relatives apologize to Kalani.
Lesina and Tammy admitted they'd like to see Asuelu and Kalani get divorced, but Asuelu had his wife's back and Lesina eventually came around and seemed okay with the fact Asuelu wasn't going to be able to give her much money.
"Asuelu said all of the right things today, so I feel more hopeful and think there are a lot more things to look forward to in our relationship," Kalani told the cameras.
Kalani and Asuelu's progress led to a fairly happy three months until the global outbreak of coronavirus earlier this year.
The pandemic apparently put additional stress on Kalani and Asuelu's relationship.
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Kalani said she and Asuelu were fighting all the time and it seemed like Asuelu almost wanted to be exposed to coronavirus because he was going out with his friends a lot and allegedly lying about his whereabouts.
"I need to protect my kids. I can't keep letting him do whatever the hell he wants," Kalani said. "I'm not just going to let him back in the house with the babies."
After a big fight, Kalani told Asuelu to go to his mother's place in Washington State. She said their marriage wasn't working any more and she didn't know what was going to happen.
Kalani told her mother Lisa that she caught Asuelu lying because she had put a tracker on his phone. Asuelu told Kalani he was out for a drive one day when he was really playing volleyball with his friends amid the coronavirus pandemic.
"I'm with someone who just gives me nothing. At this point, I don't really see the point of being married anymore. I really am just done... I don't see the point of it all. I've just been fighting and trying my hardest, and it's just me trying," Kalani cried.
"There's, like, 20 percent of me that's waiting to see if he'll change or do something different, but I'm not going to hold my breath."
Kalani acknowledged love just didn't seem to be enough and their relationship was not working.
During Part 1 of 90 Day Fiance: Happily Ever After?'s Season 5 Tell-All, Kalani wasn't sure whether Asuelu was going to show up because they apparently hadn't been communicating much at all.
Kalani explained she and her husband were in a toxic pattern of fighting, Asuelu leaving, Asuelu returning, getting along, and then fighting again.
Asuelu did, in fact, join the Tell-All.
Kalani said Asuelu sometimes did the dishes, cleaned the children's playroom and put their son Kennedy to sleep, but she admitted Asuelu doing chores was not consistent.
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"Does he get an allowance too?" Colt joked.
Asuelu confirmed he missed his wife and children when he was away.
When asked to reveal the status of their relationship, Kalani replied, "Today we are together and we are living together, but we aren't anywhere near where we used to be in the universe together. We are just stuck in a really rocky place right now."
Asuelu said he and Kalani fought over how much he played volleyball during the pandemic, and Kalani pointed out he didn't always wear a mask when with other people.
Asuelu revealed he's earning money as a dance instructor and gives it to his household rather than his family back in Samoa. Kalani admitted she'd rather Asuelu stay home because the money he earns from the dance classes isn't enough to risk contracting coronavirus.
Kalani worried her parents could become infected, which is part of the reason why Kalani had kicked Asuelu out of their home to go live with his mother in Washington State.
Kalani's sister Kolini and mother Lisa then joined the Tell-All through videochat, and Kalani's mother called Asuelu "irresponsible" and said he doesn't care about anyone but himself, "period."
Kolini suggested Asuelu is not considerate and such behavior cannot be learned at his age.
"I can't imagine not thinking about your family first," Kolini said.
Asuelu didn't view playing volleyball as being any worse than going to the grocery store, but Kalani changed the subject to Asuelu trying to control little things that she does.
"Don't sniff the milk because you're going to make it go bad," Kalani recalled Asuelu telling her.
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"I'm looking forward to the day when it ends," Kolini acknowledged, before adding, "Do I see them together in the future? I don't at this point in time."
Lisa agreed Kalani's marriage won't last unless Asuelu made some major changes, and Kolini said Asuelu didn't know how to cope with anything and his initial response to confrontation was to be combative.
Asuelu argued he could call his wife a "b-tch" if he wanted to, and he said Kolini was annoying.
As Asuelu appeared to end the conversation and attempt to leave the room and take off his microphone, Kolini pointed out, "This is what he does."
Kalani said Asuelu has difficulty expressing his feelings and so he gets "super defensive."
Did Kalani and Asuelu separate for good and decide to divorce -- or is the 90 Day Fiance couple still together and married?
Kalani and Asuelu haven't mentioned each other on social media in a month, but they appeared to still be together in late August.Asuelu -- who is apparently still working at the same nutrition store in Utah, which is near the home he shares with Kalani -- called Kalani his "wife" at the time when telling fans they could begin booking him for Cameo videos.
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And back in late July, Asuelu captioned a series of photos of his family in Pine Valley, UT. They appeared to do some hiking by a lake.
"Family Adventure #blessed #love #utahcheck," Asuelu captioned the slideshow.
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Asuelu captioned the video, "Morning routine after riding the bus," proving that the couple was living together.
In early July, Asuelu wished Kalani a happy birthday on his Instagram account by posting a video of his wife and son. He wrote over the video "love of my life."
And in the caption, Asuelu gushed, "My wife's birthday. Cheers for 32nd years my love @kalanifaagata and many more to come."
The pair additionally shared two YouTube videos on their channel this past summer after not uploading anything on their channel for almost a year.
On June 30, Kalani posted a sweet photo of Asuelu cuddling with their boys on Instagram Stories.
One week earlier, Kalani posted a smiling selfie with Asuelu, a video of Asuelu laughing in a massage chair, and brief throwback clips of the couple's axe-throwing date.
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