The Bachelor alum Kelley Flanagan has revealed the details of her ex-boyfriend Ari Raptis' cheating scandal.

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"I just feel so stupid," Kelley said of her year-and-a-half long relationship with Ari during the November 27 episode of the "Chicks in the Office" podcast.

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Kelley chose not to name Ari other than giving him the nickname of "A" when speaking about him.

"I moved to Philadelphia; I moved in with this guy... and we had amazing times," Kelley said.

"At this point, it's hard for me to even remember those good times, which is kind of sad but it's my truth. I'm like, 'What the hell was real and what wasn't?'"

Kelley said "things moved really fast" with Ari, whom she debuted on Instagram in June 2023.

While Kelley moved to Philadelphia, she said she never got rid of her apartment in Miami, FL, in order to have a "safety net."

Kelley recalled, "I was never there [in Miami]. I completely moved into an apartment in Philadelphia with him. And things were starting to get bad."

Kelley explained how she began "losing a part" of herself to "be on this guy's page" and make things work with him.
 
"I was always on his terms and I, like, stopped doing so much of my work," Kelley admitted.

"I stopped doing so much influencing. I stopped seeing my friends as much, and I was like, 'Who am I these days?' I've accomplished so much for myself that made me so happy, and then I was just losing it all. I had a really tough time, so I vocalized that and we ended up breaking up in April."

Kelley, however, did not publicly announce her split from Ari until November, when she revealed via TikTok that she felt betrayed and her heart was "shattered," and that's apparently because she had given Ari another chance in Spring 2024.

"He didn't necessarily want me to post [our breakup], and I didn't out of respect, but eventually I would have to," Kelley explained.

Kelley admitted that although she "regrets it" now, she had given Ari another shot after their first split.

"I got a call from TMZ at the end of April, and they said something along the lines of, 'Hey, we got wind that your ex was out telling people that he's single and that he took home a girl that night,'" Kelley shared.

"I was like, 'Oh god, this is the last thing you want to hear about someone you just dated.' So I reached out and I said, 'Hey, I got to announce that I'm single. I don't want to be, like, hearing these things. I just got to rip the Band-Aid off.' And he convinced me to essentially give him another shot after that."

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Kelley said there was a month period when she and Ari didn't talk and had no contact.

"We were done and then he heard my perspective. I told him... how I felt. I was like, 'I didn't know who I was, and I felt like I lost myself.'"

Ari allegedly told Kelley that he heard her and he understood where she was coming from.

"He said, 'Give me an opportunity to actually change that,'" Kelley said. "And I was like, 'Okay, fine, but please, this time, let's take it slow.' We jumped in and immediately moved in together!"

Kelley claimed that although they had agreed to take things slow, they also agreed not to hook up with anyone else. Ari allegedly asked Kelley if they could simply focus on each other.

"He gave that perception and I was like, 'Yeah, I'm cool with that! I don't care. I'm not going to go out and do all of this crazy stuff. I barely go out,'" Kelley said.

Kelley said she let time pass before letting the world know that she was technically single again.

"And then we started getting back together and I was like, 'I'm not going to bring the pressure of social media back into this until things are figured out,'" Kelley said, explaining why she had left her fans in the dark during her on-again, off-again romance.

"So I wasn't posting him as much, but we were definitely dating, like, 100 percent dating. He would ask me questions like, 'Have you told your friends? Have you told your family? Does everyone know around you?' And I was like, 'Yeah, everyone knows.'"

Kelley explained that she just didn't want to be distracted by "outside noise" when she and Ari were giving their relationship another shot.

Kelley said Ari had denied TMZ's allegation and sent her video footage as "proof" -- but she didn't really care because they had been broken up at the time of the alleged incident.

"So I let it go. I was like, 'Whatever, it is what it is.' Then, fast forward to recently, I got a message from a burner number," Kelley revealed, breaking down into tears.

"I don't know why I'm crying. I never really cry... I'm just so confused by all of it."

Kelley went on to share, "I think the precedent that he would set in our relationship was, like, very, very strict... He would say things, like, 'Never put yourself in a position that would jeopardize our relationship,'" Kelley explained.

"And I'd be like, 'Yeah, I don't! I don't go out and put myself in bad situations. I barely go out.'"

Kelley said she and Ari always had conversations about prioritizing their relationship and being loyal to one another, but then she "eventually found out" that he wasn't holding up his end of the deal.

"So I get this burner, and I was like, 'What is going on?' They said, 'If you're still with this guy, he is essentially highly, highly disrespecting you and cheating on you.' And I was like, 'What the hell?! What is this?'" Kelley revealed.

Kelley said her intuition had been telling her all summer long that something was wrong.

"Things weren't adding up because he would go to Italy, Greece, New York... and he's not responding to me, he's not texting me at night, or random girls [started] following him," Kelley alleged.

"I would ask him about it, and he would make me feel like it was my followers that were following him."

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Kelley, however, said she knew which people were following her. She also claimed that Ari had said his publicists were accidentally accepting friends on his then-private Instagram account.

But Kelley wasn't buying it and she thought Ari's social-media activity was "suspicious."

Kelley continued, "I did a deep dive and these girls were matching up with the guys he was going out with. Something was not right here."

Ari allegedly told Kelley that when he went out, he'd introduce himself to other women but that's it.

"He was like, 'It's pointless to talk to other girls. When I go out, I don't speak to another female,'" Kelley recalled.

"That was the perception that I had -- and that he made me believe. And to be honest, I thought it was a little weird because I have guy friends and I thought there was nothing wrong with that."

Kelley said she had her suspicions about Ari already and then her "antennas" went up once she received a message from that burner number.

"And then we moved into the apartment together. I moved in everything. I cleaned out every single drawer... and then jewelry shows up at the apartment. I'm packing to go back to Miami and I find women's jewelry," Kelley said.

"And he was like, 'Oh, it's from a Halloween party that I went to out in L.A. I purchased it on Amazon.' I said, 'Great, let me see your order.' But he said, 'The order is not here.' And I was like, 'Convenient!'"

Kelley said Ari later changed the story, suggesting that it was just "old jewelry" from the past.

"I was like, 'How? I moved every square inch into this damn apartment... Every single drawer, I had cleaned,'" Kelley complained.

"I was like, 'This doesn't make sense.'"

Kelley then flew back to Miami and ran into an influencer, whom Kelley dubbed "B," at an event. Kelley shared how this woman "had a fling" with Ari in the past.

Kelley said when she told Ari about her run-in with this woman, Ari's "energy was off."

Ari apparently told Kelley that he had bumped into this woman, who was clearly following him on social media, over the summer for two seconds.

"A mutual friend we had gave me her contact, and then 'B' gave me all the receipts," Kelley said.

"She said, 'Kelley, there were a couple of times I ran into him this summer and I'm not going to lie, he was very handsy with me. He was telling me that he was single, and he was taking selfies with me," Kelley shared.

Kelley said this woman had text messages to corroborate her story and Ari allegedly invited her to attend a friend's birthday party with him.

Ari allegedly sent this woman a black car and brought her to the party.

"She ran into him another time in the Hamptons, in August," Kelley noted, adding how she and Ari were "100 percent" together at this point.

Kelley said Ari was so adamant about her posting photos of him on social media -- yet he'd never post of her or share any of her content.

"It was always an excuse. I was so manipulated, in my mind," Kelley said.

When Kelley saw the alleged proof, she thought to herself, "Damn, damn, damn."

"She's sending me all the proof and I go to him and was like, 'Do you want to be honest here? Just be honest with me,'" Kelley recalled. "But I didn't tell him I had freakin' screenshots of everything."

Kelley said she even contacted other women, asking if they knew anything about Ari's behavior.

"Almost every corner I looked into, things were coming out," Kelley claimed.

"One of the girls was like, 'He's been hitting on this girl.' She gave me the name, and I was like, 'His ex?!' And she was like, 'Yeah.' I was like, 'What the hell.'"

Kelley, meanwhile, said Ari got angry at her for briefly speaking to her ex at an event, which he dubbed extremely disrespectful.

Kelley claimed that once she announced she was "done" with Ari on social media, "more things started coming out" about him.

"Women were messaging me, like, 'I saw him on September 5. He left a bar with a guy and a group of girls,'" Kelley said.

That night, Ari had allegedly sent Kelley a picture of a painting in his apartment to suggest that he was home alone.

Another person told Kelley that Ari had been spotted leaving a bar hand in hand with another woman this past summer.

"I was like, "Holy sh-t, this goes deep!'" Kelley lamented. "And I'm sure there's so much more... I think [our good times] were all just fake, like, not one part of it was real."

Kelley said she's never been hurt like this before

Kelley said she essentially begged Ari to just own up to mistakes and admit the truth, but he'd only come clean about "very small" pieces of the truth.

"He was like, 'I picked up a girl's number in June at the bar in Philly,'" Kelley recalled.

"And he was like, 'When I was in DC, I got another girl's number, but I didn't go to dinner with her.'... I was like, 'At this point, you would need to give me a lobotomy to literally believe anything that is coming out of your mouth.'"

Kelley said Ari had claimed it was always the women coming onto him and not the other way around.

"And he was like, 'This girl wanted to get lunch and coffee the next day, but I never texted her back,'" Kelley claimed. "Again, I can't believe one word."

But now that Kelley is definitely done with Ari, she said she is healing and moving on.

"It's still so fresh... I know I will and I'll be fine at the end of the day," Kelley said.

"I just know that I need to focus on myself and get myself back to a place where I was happy hanging out with my friends, do things that I love and that's the only thing I can do at this point."

Prior to her romance with Ari, Kelley had dated The Bachelor's Season 24 star Peter Weber for three years on and off.

Peter and Kelley began dating in early 2020 amid the coronavirus pandemic and announced their first split on New Year's Eve 2021. It didn't take long for the couple to try again, but then they broke up in February 2021, with Kelley confirming the revived romance ended "really badly."

Peter and Kelley sparked speculation they were back together -- again -- in August 2022 via flirty social media posts and public appearances. They ultimately went Instagram official with their relationship for the second time in October of that year.

Peter revealed he and Kelley -- his fifth-place finisher on The Bachelor -- were done during a playful interview at a beauty convention in Calgary, Canada, in April 2023.

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